How to Make Decisions Like a Man

Indecision is a decision. It is a decision to let circumstances choose for you. And men who habitually avoid decisions are men who have handed control of their lives to everyone and everything around them.

Most indecision comes from one of three places: fear of being wrong, fear of disappointing someone, or lack of clarity about what you actually want. All three are solvable.

Fear of being wrong: accept that you will make wrong decisions. Every man who has built anything has made decisions that did not work out. The goal is not to be right every time — it is to make the best decision you can with the information you have, and then adjust based on results. Paralysis is always worse than a correctable mistake.

Fear of disappointing someone: your decisions are not a democracy. You can take input. You should take input from people whose judgment you respect. But the decision is yours. Making choices based primarily on what others will think is how you end up living a life that belongs to everyone except you.

Lack of clarity: if you do not know what you want, you cannot make good decisions. Get clear on your values and your goals first. Most decisions become obvious when you know what you are optimizing for.

The framework is simple: gather the relevant information, consult people you trust if the stakes are high, make the decision, commit to it, and adjust as needed. Do not revisit it constantly. Do not second-guess it publicly. Make it and move.